If you prefer to listen to the audio version, I talk about this on Episode 23 of the 1LIFE1YOU Podcast
Family. Friends. Coworkers. Celebrities. Strangers on the Internet. We live in this time where everything is accessible. Everything can be seen, read, and talked about anywhere in the world. And that’s really really cool.
But the gift and the curse (no jayz) is that, with all that accessibility to people’s lives and opinions, we tend to fall in the “Comparison Game”.
Looking at others. Comparing your faults to their perceived perfections. Comparing the timeline of someone else to where you are in life.
I see and hear it a lot. And, it’s not just about social media (though it plays a big part in this problem).
When something good happens to someone. Or someone is progressing in life faster than you. Or has more good things going on than you….
That’s all negative energy.
That’s all time you are wasting thinking about something you have NO control over. And you have to let that way of thinking go.
If it happens while you’re scrolling through social media, then close the app. Or unfollow the people that provoke those negative thoughts. You have the power.
If it happens in person, step away from that environment. Excuse yourself. Get away.
She gets it
Negative thoughts won’t just go away, but you have to start making yourself aware when it’s happening. Close the app. Unfollow the person. Walk away.
You can take it a step further and literally write down something positive about you. Right on the spot. Either with a pen and paper or in your note section on your phone.
It’s about realizing the trigger, but changing the reaction to it.
It happens to me. I’ll scroll Instagram and see this or that person in the same field as me doing amazing things, and I’ll start the Comparison Game. So, what I did was unfollowed everyone. And I’ll slowly rebuild it back to keep a positive energy for ME on MY timeline.
Comparing yourself to other is a nasty habit to have. You must know your trigger points and change the reactions to them. As soon as possible. Break the habit by building a new, positive one.