THE GOAL IS TO BE HEALTHY FOR LIFE

When I’m talking about health and fitness, I’m not speaking about trendy diets, get fit quick plans, or the bs you see on social media. (Unless it’s to say, don’t do those things!)

Listen to episode 28 of the #1LIFE1YOUPodcast

I am talking about being fit and healthy for life. A lot of us have 1, 2, 3 more lives to live. Those years are what I’m speaking on.

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When being selfish is ok

A quick story from someone that DM’d me on Instagram.

You can listen to episode 27: being selfish is ok

It may sound messed up to some and some may not understand, but she was telling me about how she has been taking her own time back. And being more selfish with who or what she gives her time too.

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The Pants That Fit

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I got a message a couple days ago. And i ask the things I always ask, “How was the week? Good? Bad? Great?”

And, she says that she’s having a good week. Workouts going well. Food is getting better. And she goes on to tell me that she had a NON SCALE VICTORY that she didn’t plan on having so soon.

The goal, that she was hoping to accomplish in October, was to fit into these pants that she had that didn’t fit.

She said, talking to a friend about vacation coming up, and she wanted to go try on these pants…

And… THEY FIT!

Now, I think that’s awesome. But, it is a risk she took. It could have gone a couple ways.

1. They fit! The hard work she’s been doing is being seen.

2. They don’t fit…

A) Gets discouraged by the effort of the last 2 months

B) Motivates her to go harder

But, they fit! And that’s a really big win. The confidence it builds. The reassurance of the process. The knowing that the hard work is paying off.

You may not always see it. The scale may tell you something different on different days. But, how you feel. How does your clothes fit you. They are big markers on your progress.

#NonScaleVictory

Stop The Comparison Game

If you prefer to listen to the audio version, I talk about this on Episode 23 of the 1LIFE1YOU Podcast

Family. Friends. Coworkers. Celebrities. Strangers on the Internet. We live in this time where everything is accessible. Everything can be seen, read, and talked about anywhere in the world. And that’s really really cool.

But the gift and the curse (no jayz) is that, with all that accessibility to people’s lives and opinions, we tend to fall in the “Comparison Game”.

Looking at others. Comparing your faults to their perceived perfections. Comparing the timeline of someone else to where you are in life.

I see and hear it a lot. And, it’s not just about social media (though it plays a big part in this problem).

When something good happens to someone. Or someone is progressing in life faster than you. Or has more good things going on than you….

That’s all negative energy.

That’s all time you are wasting thinking about something you have NO control over. And you have to let that way of thinking go.

If it happens while you’re scrolling through social media, then close the app. Or unfollow the people that provoke those negative thoughts. You have the power.

If it happens in person, step away from that environment. Excuse yourself. Get away.

She gets it

Negative thoughts won’t just go away, but you have to start making yourself aware when it’s happening. Close the app. Unfollow the person. Walk away.

You can take it a step further and literally write down something positive about you. Right on the spot. Either with a pen and paper or in your note section on your phone.

It’s about realizing the trigger, but changing the reaction to it.

It happens to me. I’ll scroll Instagram and see this or that person in the same field as me doing amazing things, and I’ll start the Comparison Game. So, what I did was unfollowed everyone. And I’ll slowly rebuild it back to keep a positive energy for ME on MY timeline.

Comparing yourself to other is a nasty habit to have. You must know your trigger points and change the reactions to them. As soon as possible. Break the habit by building a new, positive one.

Life Lessons From THE BOYS

Let’s start with a little background for those that don’t know what THE BOYS are. It’s an Amazon Prime series, that is doing very well. Here’s a quick overview of the show:

It’s taking the classic superhero storyline and placed it in a real world setting.

Me and E just finished the series (in 5 days! Bingers Unite!). And in thinking about it and talking about the show and characters, I thought it’d be cool to take some lessons from the show and apply it to your life.

*Some are more serious than others*

1. Team work makes the dream work

The show is really about 2 teams. The Supes and The Boys. And when things are going best for either side, it’s usually when the respective teams are working together.

Do you have a team that helps you? That pushes you to achieve goals? To bounce ideas off? Maybe you should. Just look at the Spice Girls…

2. Let Things Go

Over and over in The Boy, characters are using anger, revenge, spite to drive them, and it never makes them satisfied or happy. Looking at you Butcher and Hughie!

You can’t let those negative emotions drive your life.

3. Fame & Money does not equal happiness

Looking at Starlight’s story, she got everything she wanted, or at least thought she wanted. And when she had it all, she was less happy than before.

Finding happiness outside of money or fame is a more fulfilling way to live your life.

4. What happens in the dark always comes to the light.

There was a long list of characters that had secrets, or hidden personas. Hughie lying, Butcher keeping secrets, Homelander not being the 100% good guy character, ATrain using drugs, to how the Supes formed to begin with.

You can’t hide things forever. Being honest, and truthful will lead to a less stressful life.

5. Cherish the moments

You never know when you will have that last time with someone. Or when something tragic could happen. Live in the moment. Spend your time with the people you like being around.

Even if that person was a lab created terrorist who can’t be killed….

*And a couple quick one:

6. Don’t have sex with strangers.

7. Don’t stand in the street to have a conversation

8. A loving family comes in many forms (Looking at that final scene lol)

Ok. I’m done. Hope you enjoyed!

Health Benefits Of Sleep

Adults should be getting 7-9 hours of sleep.

EVERY. NIGHT.

Non Negotiable.

When it comes to fitness and changing lifestyles, this usually is the last thing targeted (behind working out & nutrition). But, it should really come first. Just look at it from a 24 hour view. What do you spend the most time doing, Working out, Eating, or Sleeping?

I know. I know. You may be one of those, “I thrive with 4 hours sleep!” people, and guess what? You’re wrong. You are wrecking your body and mind, but just not seeing it right away. How is your heart rate? Blood pressure? Eating habits? Mood?

Some studies say that more than 1/3 of people are sleep deprived. 1 in 3!

Getting a consistent good nights sleep can have a ton of benefits on your health. And can also help you avoid a bunch of other health problems. Here’s a quick list of some benefits of getting the proper amount of sleep…

BENEFITS

Improve your workouts

Sharpen attention

Improve memory

Reduce stress levels

Helps body recover from workouts

Reduces depression risk

Strengthen immune system

Live longer

Keeps heart healthy

Helps build muscle

Helps with weight loss

Helps with fat loss

More natural energy

Why Motivation Is BS

*This blog goes with episode 21 of the 1LIFE1YOU Podcast. You can listen below or check it out on all streaming platforms*

In the fitness world, and really, in the social media world, #Motivation is SUPER popular. Between the Instagram hashtags and photos, to the Pinterest posts, you can not escape the word.

But, is it something you should seek out?

When do you feel motivated? Seeing your favorite celebrity/athlete doing things, or looking how you’d like to? Or seeing the IG video that makes you want to go workout? Or maybe that Pinterest pin that really speaks to your soul???

Whatever it is, you’re inspired, you’re motivated to get up and get moving. Which is awesome! Whatever or however you get yourself going is great! It’s great to have goals and want to go out and crush them.

In that way, motivation is great.

But, just having motivation alone will not get it done.

Motivation without a plan is nothing.

Motivation without action is nothing.

It ends up being just a good feeling. It’s just you giving yourself a reward without doing any actual work.

If you have a goal, you have to know that you will not always be motivated to achieve it… The cool thing is, you don’t have to be!

Action does not need motivation.

Discipline will always outweigh motivation.

Being in this crazy fitness/coaching/trainer world, I hear sayings like, “I’m just not motivated to workout (or meal prep, or go to the gym or work on that project)….

And when that happens ( it ALWAYS happens), you really have to look at your goals.

Do you REALLY want to lose weight, get stronger, healthier, fitter?

If the answer is NO, that’s cool. Let’s sit and figure out a different goal.

But, if the answe is YES, then you have to move past motivation.

Motivation can get you started, but it won’t ever keep you going. Discipline will. Building daily habits will. Action will.

Question: How often are you motivated to go to work? Or to get up and brush your teeth?

You usually aren’t. You are disciplined, you have the habit built. Your goals should be treated the same way.

Stop relying on motivation to get things done. Focus on consistency. Day in. Day out. Skip the hashtags. Stop watching the motivational videos, and do the work.

Find your own goals, and take action.

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